The Sacred Pause
There is a version of you on the other side of this—
and they’re proud of you for not running.
Not the you who figured it all out.
Not the you who tied it up with a pretty bow.
But the you who stayed.
Stayed when it got uncomfortable.
Stayed when everything in you said “shut down,” “numb out,” “escape.”
Stayed in the room. In the mirror. In the moment.
That’s sacred.
The Disappearing Act You Outgrew
Because you’ve done the disappearing act before.
The retreat. The perfection. The armor.
You know how to run with grace — and call it healing.
You know how to ghost yourself while still showing up for everyone else.
But this time?
You paused.
You breathed.
You stayed.
Maybe you didn’t respond perfectly.
Maybe you cried. Maybe you yelled. Maybe you froze.
But you felt it instead of fleeing it.
And that matters.
The Witnessing
There is a future you — soft, rooted, whole —
watching you in this very moment, whispering:
“Thank you for not leaving me behind.”
Because here’s what most people won’t tell you:
Staying isn’t glamorous.
It’s gritty.
It’s shaking knees and shallow breaths and the ache of everything unspoken rising to the surface.
The Brave Choice to Stay
It’s sitting with the trigger instead of silencing it.
It’s letting the grief come up instead of swallowing it.
It’s telling the truth — even when your voice trembles.
And sometimes staying looks like walking away.
From the person. From the habit. From the old identity that only knew how to perform.
That, too, is sacred.
That, too, is staying with you.
We don’t talk enough about how brave it is to stay.
To stay in your body.
To stay in the truth.
To stay when the story gets scary, and your instinct is to vanish.
The Rhythm of Healing
But healing asks for presence, not perfection.
It asks for your breath, not your brilliance.
It asks you to root — not run.
Because staying isn’t about suffering.
It’s about self-honoring.
It’s choosing to be with yourself, even when it's uncomfortable.
Especially then.
Your Mantra
Say it with your chest. Whisper it like a prayer.
Let it live in your ribcage:
I stay.
Even when it hurts.
Even when I want to run.
I stay with me.
Because I am worth not abandoning.
The Becoming
So if no one told you today?
You’re doing the holy work.
You’re becoming the version of you that once felt impossible.
You stayed.
And that’s enough.
🕊️ What part of you didn’t run this time?
Let it speak in the comments if it’s ready—
the tender voice, the quiet win, the small-but-sacred shift.
Let’s name the brave things we don’t always celebrate.
🌿 If this found you in a tender place…
I share weekly reflections like this — essays, voice notes, and healing rhythms
for the ones learning to stay present, stay soft, and stay rooted
even when it’s hard.
🌀 This space is for the ones becoming without abandoning themselves.
No rushing. No pretending.
Just breath, truth, and sacred staying power.
https://substack.com/@wlorenzocromwell/note/p-163871175